Week 10 - The Quiet Gift of Being Met
There is a moment that comes after we allow ourselves to be seen—not immediately, and not always in the way we expect.
It is the moment of being met.
Not fixed.
Not rescued.
Not reassured away from what hurts.
Just met.
So much of grief teaches us to stand alone, even when we are surrounded by people. We learn to hold our experiences carefully, unsure of how much space they are allowed to take. We wonder whether what we carry is too heavy, too quiet, or too much for someone else to hold alongside us.
And then, sometimes, without ceremony, someone stays.
They don’t rush to fill the silence.
They don’t ask us to explain ourselves better.
They don’t require us to be stronger than we are.
They simply remain.
Being met in this way is a quiet gift. It doesn’t change what has been lost. But it changes how alone we feel inside of it.
There is something profoundly healing about realizing we don’t have to manage ourselves in order to be worthy of presence. That we don’t have to package our grief into something more understandable or palatable. That our unfinishedness does not disqualify us from connection.
Sometimes being met looks like a conversation that wanders.
Sometimes it looks like shared silence.
Sometimes it looks like someone noticing when we’re struggling—and not turning away.
And sometimes, it begins when we learn to meet ourselves with the same patience.
This is not the loud, triumphant kind of healing we often imagine. It is slower. Softer. More human.
But it reminds us of something essential:
We were never meant to carry everything alone.
And when we are met—truly met—something in us learns to rest.
End-of-Reflection Block
This reflection echoes themes from my memoir, Gathering the Pieces, about loss, resilience, and the quiet strength that carries us forward.
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— Lennie
